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Romance






People now a days take this word 'Romance' and discard it's actual meaning entirely.




Think back to the 18th century or the Victorian period, ladies were courted and wooed into a relationship (Yes there is the whole other matter of women inequality, but that's for another time) the men would send ladies flowers, and the women were treated as if they were raised on to a golden pedestal.

However, now a days, certainly in my experience, women are lucky if they get a Nando's and a dessert of no-strings-attached sex.

Now I am no means traditional when it comes to life, in fact I love the weird and wonderful more than I should, but when it comes to a relationship, I like surprises and romantic gestures as much as the next girl. Personally, things like 'tinder' and other dating sites targeted at casual sex disgust me.

But are women asking too much of men now a days?

My analogy of life is we should make the most of every moment, we should strive to do the things we want because who knows what lies around the corner. And so in my opinion this is the same for a relationship, try new and abstract things (yes, I am referring to the bedroom department as well) go to that restaurant you both love, and see that film you've wanted to see for ages.
Yes, a healthy relationship is built up of compromise, but it should never be one sided.


I always thought that I asked too much of men, and had high expectations, but the truth is all I wanted was an occasional surprise...or even a bunch of flowers.. ? (I have never been bought flowers)

I am spontaneous and always have been, I decide what I want to do in a split second and rarely think of the consequences, this has its good and bad points of course.
But thinking of others comes naturally to me, and I suppose I've never had that mutual connection with somebody who would surprise me and make me feel like a million dollars. If you know that person well enough you know what they like/dislike and so it should be easy for you to pick an outstanding gift/trip/ or even just a few sentimental words.

Another thing I have noticed now I'm single is that the men that make you feel special are usually in a relationship/married to other women, and this is a trend I'm starting to see throughout generations, especially within my family. So if you're not happy with the person you're with, SORT IT OUT, don't make another woman feel like crap for the sake of you're own ego, because lets face it, it's not going to end well.

Taking a step back from all this romance stuff, one main factor to consider whilst in a relationship is 'Are you happy?' do you think about that person all the time?, do you long to see them ? and in my opinion the most important thing: Do they still make you smile?
Life is too short to be arguing about menial things, which usually involves money/time/bills or who washed up last...
Love life, Love them.

So take note all you gentlemen out there, a woman wants to feel special, like she stands out from the crowd, and that you have made that extra effort to woo her and make her feel like there is nobody else worth having.
Until that day, here is a message for all you ladies out there, look beautiful, feel great and above all love yourself, because at the end of the day being in a relationship isn't everything.


I know many people won't agree with me, but that's why people have opinions.

Let me know if you have ever experienced these things, or if I am asking too much ?

Have a nice day!

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