When I was younger I was under the impression that people grow up, get married, have children and live happily ever after...well not completely, but near enough...I saw adults fight, I saw them bicker, but I knew at the end of the day they couldn't possibly separate.

We all have to make choices in life, what we want to do, what we want to become, our careers, our hobbies...and what we don't seem to remember is we have the choice to set our own rules and regulations.

I found that being in a relationship is one big compromise.

We have to take other people into account and we can't just think about ourselves, then we get called 'selfish' and 'inconsiderate', can we really have separate lives, or do you always have to think of others?

Life is one big mystery, so many people try to place people into boxes and categories, this person is a goth, this person is a hippy, this person is sleeping with multiple people and must be a whore...
But can we really get everything we need from one person ?

As a woman who has recently come out of a relationship I can tell you that one person couldn't possibly give you everything you need...I mean what heterosexual man wants to go shopping for shoes and bitch about other people...if you find them let me know, but that's not what I want a man for.

I'm enjoying being single, yes I miss the stability of a 'relationship' but I have good friends that all offer different things.

What I'm trying to say is you don't have to say you're in a relationship, you don't have to convince people one way or the other. You do what makes you happy, and if that is sleeping with multiple partners, getting married to one special person or just being close to someone it's your choice to make.

Love comes in all different shapes and sizes and sometimes placing boundaries/labels on it can effect the outcome of what happens, sometimes the strain of being married, or living together can cause what was a happy healthy relationship to turn sour.

Yes, I am young, you may think I'm naive but seriously...do what YOU want.


A lot of people recently have said they think I'm in a weird situation, but I am genuinely happy, I love my friends and I love having someone their for me who understands me, and I understand them.
Having a connection like that takes years to build and I'm not jeopardizing that for the opinion of a few small minded individuals.

Be happy. Explore, Live.